Life is forever changing. That’s just a fact. But there are specific times on this life’s journey when each of us experiences major transitions. Sometimes we do not even notice the beginning of a transition but then we find ourselves in a state of confusion and self-doubt, and our bodies and minds can come under extreme stress. William Bridges wrote a wonderful book called Transitions that speaks to these disturbing feelings and also explains that transitions are a natural part of our progression through life.
Not only do we experience transitions in the most obvious ways, such as careers or relationships, but also in such things as geographical locations, youth/age, retirement, etc. Some of these events are, for the most part, planned but often a transition can be subtle, and we cannot grasp what is happening. Occupying that middle place between what was and what is to come can make one feel lost, confused, disoriented, and question: what is life; who am; what have I done right; what have I done wrong?
Nothing is wrong. It is simply part of the natural evolution of change, and we can trust that with one ending comes a new beginning, even if we cannot fully grasp it. The way through a transition it to be aware!
Give yourself the gift of taking some time out to reassess. Notice and examine where you are, what you truly want and consider how to move toward. Look for the purpose in the ending and allow yourself to engage with what is now on the horizon. When you are willing to look closely at a transition, it often expedites its passing and you will begin to feel stable and reoriented to your life. What can seem painful and frightening can become a great gift, if you let it.
Transitions give life richness and depth. We have the ability to make such times wonderful adventures instead of scary mires. We can take control of our destiny rather than be controlled by life’s events simply by heightening awareness to our own experiences.