Lessons From My Father

I learned a lot from my father, some lessons took longer to learn than others. We had what I would call a full spectrum relationship – from fantastic to horrible and a bit of everything in between.

It’s hard to believe that he passed away almost 20 years ago. I was so much younger in so many ways back then, still staking my own claim in life. It’s taken me all of those 20 years to see the value in that fantastic-horrible relationship we had. I’ve come to understand that every experience is an opportunity to learn and grow.

From the fantastic, I learned …

A strong work ethic

The value of a dollar

To have an inquisitive mind

Awesome debating skills

To seek a good education

Great storytelling

A deep love for the land

An appreciation for good food

From the horrible, I learned …

To withhold judgment – I can never know someone else’s whole story

To give without conditions

To respect my children’s choices

To always find something in others that is worthy of praise

The only life I have power over is my own

The importance of nurturing a spiritual life

That what is right for me may not be so for others

From the in between, I learned …

A father has warts and wrinkles, good days and bad days

He is exceedingly brave at times and, at others, steeped in fear

He loves and nurtures in his own way and, I expect, sometimes worries that his way is misunderstood

That there is no perfect, “textbook” father/child relationship – only the one you have

There are always places to find common ground, look for those, and enjoy what you can together

A father is simply a human being, like the rest of us, trying to do his best


So, thanks, Dad, for the fantastic-horrible ride.

You’ve been one of my greatest teachers … and I appreciate you for it.

Happy Father’s Day,   Plynn

Author: Plynn Gutman

Plynn Gutman is a certified coach with a refreshing and holistic approach to achieving an Integrated Life. Specialized retreats, workshops and classes are all a part of Plynn’s wide array of resources that she offers along with useful life lessons, tips and advice through her blog. A writer at heart, with several titles available, Plynn's variety of work appeals to everyone.

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