In our fast-paced, technology-driven world it can be easy to forget that we don’t always need to be connected at all times. Looking back only a few years ago we weren’t nearly as connected as we are today. For example, now while on a trip we may be posting pictures to friends and family in real time. Gone are the days of handwriting a postcard, mailing it from a land far away and receiving it weeks after we returned home. From my perspective things seem to be happening at an accelerated rate, in real time – all the time.
This accelerated pace has been tapping me on the shoulder and encouraging a change. Recently I have begun focusing on paying close attention to the speed at which I am moving, thinking and what I’m doing. When I feel like I’m moving too fast I like to remind myself that most things don’t happen at the speed of an app or download and that it is ok to take our time and delay sending that email response or return a call when we are able to sit down and focus on the conversation. Some of my friends would say “I don’t have time to stop what I’m doing to sit down and have a long conversation. A text works just fine.”
Recently I have desired deeper connection and a slower pace. Slowing down has been something that I not only want to embrace but am feeling called to do every day. Sure, a text can communicate a simple message but to really communicate with depth it does take a conversation.
Slowing things down has made me much more engaged in the present task. Multitasking has been replaced by a focus on one thing at a time. I confess that it’s much more refreshing and relaxing. My satisfaction level, and I also suspect the quality of the work, has improved as I’m not dancing in between activities.
One of my favorite ways to slow things down is to go on a retreat. Intentionally creating that space on the calendar where a block of time for renewal and a slower pace has been reserved is welcomed. On retreat we are invited to put away our agendas, mobiles and appointments, well, that is unless you’re booked at the spa or attending a workshop. Going on a retreat is an invitation to create a different level of connection; one with you, your inner being and those around you.
While on a retreat, I find that keeping my technology in the room allows me to be fully present and settle into the energy and rhythm of the event. Through activities, workshops and coaching on retreat we are each invited to tap into the unique possibility and greatness inside each one of us. Try a retreat or at least give yourself the gift of being fully present and engaged in the moment without the distraction technology. It can be an incredibly positive and liberating experience.
Scott Masciarelli, PCC, BCC partners with clients around personal and professional leadership development helping them to thrive. He has an adventurous spirit, is an avid world traveler and speaks several languages. Scott is co-facilitating a retreat in Bali this September, www.coachsretreat.com. Visit his website at www.clearinsightscoaching.com.
Plynn Gutman 