I recently tweeted a great quote from Victor Hugo, who was talking about the creative process in his writing,
“When you get an idea into your head you find it everywhere.”
Not only does this truly apply to the creative process, it is a stellar example of what is meant by the “law of attraction.” When we exude positive energy, we attract positive energy back to us.
Practically speaking, we could also say that when we heighten our awareness and intention toward a specific idea, thought or action, we then expand our ability to make choices about how we will work with that idea, change that thought or proceed with that action.
For example, because my awareness is heightened to anything that I think could be pertinent to helping others create a more balanced, healthy, integrated life, I find gems of great information everywhere – even the inserts that come in my Sunday newspaper, which is what I want to share with you now and which speaks to the principle of the law of attraction.
The little article by Katie Neal offers ways to deal with difficult people at work or at home. The suggestions are hers, but I have added my own take on how to apply them:
Keep good thoughts: Anytime you encounter this difficult person, immediately think, “I wish you well.”
Make eye contact: With intention – and even if it feels uncomfortable – choose to look into their eyes and smile while you send them your mental good wishes.
Conjure up a compliment: Choose to find a positive attribute about the person – either physical (nice clothing, hair, etc.) or personal (a good sense of humor, hard worker, etc. –even a difficult person is not ALL bad!). Keeping your ill thoughts or judgments at bay increases your emotional energy and changes it from negative to positive.
Change your mindset: Choose love and compassion for that person – try putting yourself in his/her shoes. Sometimes we are so engrossed in how we have been wronged that we forget what the other may have experienced.
The article says that, “while you can’t control (the other person’s) behaviors, you can shield yourself from their negativity with the power of your own mind.”
This is true, but to shift the “mindset” of this statement, I would like to offer that when we choose to stay positive in our thoughts and allow compassion to flow from our hearts, we are creating a bridge of love to others, who likely are difficult because they are struggling within themselves more than they are struggling with us. At the very least, that bridge of love can diffuse the negativity enough to provide some mental/emotional space to create an “opportunity” for resolution.
Now to paraphrase Victor Hugo’s statement in light of this,
“When you get a positive point of view into your head you find it everywhere.”
This post originally appeared on Your Liminal Space